Is it normal to be attracted to family members?
A fleeting crush or confusing thought about a family member can happen and doesn’t mean you’ll act on it. What matters is the relationship and keeping clear boundaries, especially with close relatives.
Feelings and thoughts can show up without you choosing them. A passing attraction or unwanted thought doesn’t define you, and it isn’t the same as wanting to do anything about it.
“Family member” covers a lot of ground, from a distant adult relative to someone who raised you or grew up as your sibling. Whatever the situation, don’t pursue a relationship where there’s a close family bond, a power imbalance, or any lack of freely given adult consent. If the attraction feels persistent, upsetting, or hard to manage, talking it through with a therapist can help you keep your boundaries clear.