Is it normal to be jealous of your boyfriend's kids?
Yes, jealousy can happen when your boyfriend’s kids get time and attention you wish you had. The feeling doesn’t make you a bad person, but it’s important not to make the kids compete with you for their dad’s attention.
It can sting to feel like you come second, especially if you’re still finding your place in the relationship. Jealousy may be less about the kids themselves and more about wanting reassurance, time together, or clarity about where you fit in his life.
You can talk with your boyfriend about making time for your relationship without asking him to give less to his children. The kids didn’t choose this situation, so try not to blame them or treat them like rivals. In a healthy relationship, there’s room for his role as a dad and for you to feel cared for as his partner.