Is it normal to compare yourself to your partner's ex?
Yes, it’s common to compare yourself to your partner’s ex, especially if you feel insecure or know a lot about their past. It doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong, but you don’t have to keep feeding the comparison.
It’s easy to wonder how you measure up when someone your partner once cared about is in the picture—even if that picture is only in your imagination. Lots of people do this, and it can flare up when you’re feeling uncertain or hearing details about the ex.
The trouble is that comparisons usually turn into a contest with someone who isn’t even part of your current relationship. Try bringing your attention back to how your partner treats you and what you want from the relationship now. If the ex keeps coming up or the comparisons are affecting your confidence, it’s okay to talk with your partner about reassurance or boundaries around sharing details.