Is it normal to fantasize about your wife with another man?
Yes, it’s normal to have this kind of fantasy, and it doesn’t automatically mean you want it to happen or that anything is wrong with your marriage. What matters is keeping fantasy separate from real-life decisions and respecting your wife’s boundaries.
Lots of people have fantasies involving a partner and someone else. The appeal can be about novelty, taboo, jealousy, or simply a scenario your imagination finds exciting—it doesn’t have to be a secret wish or a sign you’re unhappy.
People differ on whether they’d enjoy talking about a fantasy like this, so you don’t have to share it just because you have it. If you do bring it up, make clear it’s a fantasy, invite an honest response, and don’t pressure your wife to act it out. A fantasy is yours; anything real would need enthusiastic agreement from everyone involved.