Is it normal to feel jealous of your partner's ex?
Yes, it’s normal to feel jealous of your partner’s ex sometimes. What matters is how you handle it: a little reassurance can help, while trying to control your partner or compete with their past usually makes things harder.
An ex can stir up comparisons and worries about whether you measure up, even when your partner hasn’t given you a reason to doubt them. Lots of people feel a pang of jealousy now and then; it doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner or that your relationship is doomed.
It can help to name what’s underneath the feeling—maybe you want reassurance, clearer boundaries, or just a reminder that the past is the past. You can talk about that without demanding that your partner erase their history. Jealousy becomes a problem when it regularly leads to snooping, accusations, or rules meant to control who they can talk to.