Is it normal to hate your mom?
Yes, it can be normal to feel intense anger or even hate toward your mom, especially if you’ve been hurt, misunderstood, or worn down by the relationship. Having the feeling doesn’t make you a bad person, and it doesn’t mean you have to act on it or decide how you’ll feel forever.
People sometimes use “hate” for a mix of anger, hurt, resentment, or needing distance. Those feelings can come up in close family relationships, and they don’t automatically mean you don’t care about your mom—or that you owe her closeness.
What matters is what’s behind the feeling and what you do with it. You can set boundaries, take space, or talk it through with someone you trust without forcing yourself to forgive or make everything okay. If you’re being harmed or don’t feel safe at home, tell a trusted person who can help.