Is it normal to not be attracted to your wife?
It’s normal for attraction to your wife to ebb and flow, and love doesn’t always mean constant physical desire. If you’ve felt no attraction for a long time and it bothers you or affects your relationship, it’s worth talking about gently.
Attraction can change with stress, routine, conflict, life changes, or simply how a relationship evolves. Plenty of people love their spouse and still go through stretches when physical attraction feels faint or absent; it doesn’t automatically mean the marriage is over or that either of you has done something wrong.
If this has been persistent, try to get curious about what’s behind it—without turning the conversation into a blunt verdict on her appearance. A kind conversation about closeness and what’s changed can help. If you’re both stuck, a couples therapist is one option.