Is it normal to not know who you are?
Yes—lots of people go through periods of not knowing who they are or what they want. Your sense of self can take time to form and can change as your life changes.
Yes. You don’t have to have a crisp answer to “Who am I?” at all times. Your values, interests, and sense of direction can shift with new experiences, relationships, or life changes, and sometimes you only figure out what matters to you by trying things and seeing how they feel.
People differ: some feel grounded in who they are early on, while others feel more like a work in progress. That doesn’t mean you’re fake or failing at life. You can start small by noticing what you enjoy, what drains you, and what feels important when you’re not trying to meet someone else’s expectations.
If this uncertainty is making everyday life feel overwhelming or leaving you persistently distressed, talking it through with someone you trust or a counselor can help.