Is it normal to resent your husband after having a baby?
Yes, resentment toward your husband after having a baby is common, especially when you’re exhausted or feel you’re carrying more of the work. It doesn’t mean you don’t love him or that your relationship is doomed.
A new baby can turn your days, sleep, body, and sense of self upside down. If you feel your husband gets more downtime, isn’t noticing what needs doing, or isn’t sharing the load, resentment can build fast. Lots of couples hit this rough patch; it’s not exactly a season known for its candlelit romance and excellent communication.
When you can, try naming the specific help you need rather than waiting for him to guess: a night shift, a chore he owns, or a regular break for you. If the resentment feels intense or keeps growing, a calm conversation, counselor, or postpartum support provider can help. And if you’re also feeling persistently hopeless, panicky, or unable to cope, let a healthcare professional know—you deserve support, not a gold medal for suffering quietly.