Is it normal to resent your partner during pregnancy?
Yes, it’s normal to feel resentment toward your partner during pregnancy, even if you love them. It can come from physical discomfort, stress, or feeling like the pregnancy’s demands aren’t being shared fairly.
Pregnancy can put your body and emotions through a lot, while your partner may not experience those changes firsthand. Resentment can crop up if you feel unsupported, misunderstood, or left carrying more of the planning and chores. Sometimes it’s less about one big issue and more about a pileup of little ones.
People vary: some feel especially close to their partner, while others have stretches of irritation or resentment. The feeling doesn’t mean you’re a bad partner or that the relationship is doomed. If you can, name what’s bothering you and ask for specific help—like taking over a chore, coming to an appointment, or listening without trying to fix everything. If the resentment is intense or keeps turning into fights, a calm conversation with a couples counselor or pregnancy-care professional may help.