Is it normal to be married and have a crush?
Yes—having a crush while you’re married is normal for many people and doesn’t automatically mean anything is wrong with your relationship. What matters is how you handle it and the boundaries you keep.
Marriage doesn’t switch off your ability to notice or feel drawn to other people. A crush can be a passing spark, a bit of fantasy, or a sign you’re enjoying some attention; it doesn’t have to mean you want to leave your partner or that you love them less.
People differ on what feels okay, so it’s worth being honest with yourself about whether you’re feeding the crush or hiding behavior that would hurt your partner. Keeping sensible boundaries—and paying attention if the crush points to something you’re missing in the relationship—can help you decide what to do with the feeling.