Is it normal to have a crush on someone while married?
Yes, it’s normal to develop a crush while you’re married; being committed doesn’t switch off your ability to notice or feel drawn to other people. What matters is how you handle it and the boundaries you and your partner have agreed on.
A crush can pop up without meaning you love your spouse less or that your marriage is doomed. You might enjoy the attention, admire something about the person, or simply find them attractive. Feelings aren’t the same as choices, and lots of people have a passing crush they never act on.
If it’s becoming a big focus, it may help to create a little distance and think about what the crush is giving you—novelty, excitement, feeling seen—without treating it as a command to pursue anything. People differ on what counts as harmless flirting or secrecy, so it’s worth keeping your relationship’s boundaries in mind.