Is it normal to compare your partner to others?
Yes, it’s normal to sometimes compare your partner with other people or relationships you’ve seen. It’s worth paying attention if the comparisons become constant or make you feel resentful, because they may point to something you want or need.
Most people compare sometimes—often without meaning to. You might notice how another couple communicates, or wonder how your partner stacks up against an ex. That doesn’t automatically mean you love your partner less or that anything is wrong with your relationship.
The useful question is what the comparison is telling you. If it highlights something you genuinely miss, like affection or shared effort, talk about that need rather than presenting your partner with a comparison scorecard. And remember, you’re seeing other people’s highlight reels, not the whole relationship.