Is it normal to fantasize about other people while married?
Yes, it’s normal to find other people attractive or fantasize about them while you’re married. A fantasy isn’t the same as acting on it, though couples can differ in what they consider comfortable or crossing a line.
Marriage doesn’t switch off your ability to notice other people or imagine things. Plenty of people have passing fantasies, and they don’t automatically mean you love your spouse less or want to leave. Sometimes they’re just mental entertainment, not a secret plan.
People draw the line differently: some see private fantasies as no big deal, while others feel uneasy about them, especially if they’re becoming a fixation or replacing closeness with their partner. What matters most is how you act and what boundaries you and your spouse have agreed on. You don’t have to confess every passing thought, but an ongoing mismatch about boundaries may be worth talking through.