Is it normal to feel regret after having kids?
Yes, some parents feel regret or wonder what life would have been like without kids, even if they love their children. It’s a painful, taboo feeling, but having it doesn’t make you a bad parent.
Parenting can bring huge changes to your freedom, relationships, money, sleep, and sense of self. Some people regret becoming parents, or regret parts of the experience, while still loving and caring deeply about their kids. Those feelings can also shift with stress, support, and time.
You don’t have to pretend the hard parts are wonderful. If the regret feels constant or overwhelming, or is making it hard to care for yourself or your children, talking with someone you trust or a mental health professional can help you find support without judging you.