Is it normal to hate a family member?
Yes, it can be normal to feel hate toward a family member, especially after hurt, conflict, or years of feeling mistreated. Being related doesn’t mean you have to feel close or pretend everything is fine.
Family relationships can bring up unusually intense feelings because there’s often a long history, lots of expectations, and limited choice about being around each other. Sometimes “hate” is the word that fits; sometimes it’s anger, resentment, fear, or exhaustion piled up together. You’re not a bad person just for having the feeling.
What matters is what you do with it. You can set boundaries, take space, or choose not to have a close relationship without turning the feeling into cruelty or harm. If there’s abuse or you feel unsafe, getting support from someone you trust can help you make a safer plan.