Is it normal to hate your newborn?
Feeling anger, resentment, or even “hate” toward your newborn can happen when you’re overwhelmed, exhausted, or struggling to bond; it doesn’t make you a bad parent. Because it can also be a sign you need support, tell someone you trust and check in with a healthcare professional.
The newborn stage can be relentless, and not everyone feels instant love or a magical bond. Sometimes “I hate this” or even “I hate the baby” is how exhaustion, pain, anxiety, or feeling trapped comes out—and feelings aren’t the same as actions or a verdict on what kind of parent you are.
Still, you shouldn’t have to carry this alone. Tell a trusted person and contact your doctor, midwife, or another healthcare professional soon; postpartum depression and anxiety are treatable, and you deserve help. If you’re afraid you might hurt the baby or yourself, put the baby somewhere safe, step away, and get immediate help from someone nearby or emergency services.