Is it normal to love your firstborn more?
It’s normal for your bond with each child to feel different, and you may feel especially close to your firstborn at times. What matters is making sure each child feels loved and treated fairly, even if your feelings aren’t identical.
Your firstborn may have had you to themselves for a while, and you’ve shared more years and milestones. That can make the bond feel especially familiar or intense. Bonds with different children can also have different rhythms, without one child mattering less overall.
Feelings aren’t always neat or equal, but kids can notice patterns in attention and treatment. Try to give each child individual time and avoid comparisons or letting a preference shape how you treat them. If the feeling worries you, it may help to ask what’s behind it and what each child needs from you.