Is it normal to not be attracted to your partner?
It’s normal for attraction to ebb and flow, and some people care deeply about a partner without feeling much physical attraction. If you’ve consistently felt no attraction and it’s bothering you, it may be worth thinking honestly about what you want from the relationship.
Attraction isn’t a steady setting. Stress, routine, resentment, life changes, or simply getting to know someone differently can affect how drawn to them you feel. And people vary: for some, physical attraction is central to a relationship; for others, affection, companionship, or other kinds of connection matter more.
If this is a recent change, it may be a phase rather than a verdict on the relationship. If you’ve never felt attracted to your partner—or the lack of attraction is making you unhappy—take that seriously without shaming yourself. You can talk about feeling less connected without delivering a hurtful review of their appearance, and consider whether the relationship is meeting both of your needs.