Is it normal to not feel attracted to your partner?
It can be normal for attraction to ebb and flow, or for a relationship to feel loving without much physical spark. If you’ve never felt attracted to your partner—or the change is bothering you—it’s worth being honest with yourself about what you want from the relationship.
Attraction isn’t a steady setting. Stress, routine, conflict, life changes, and simply getting to know someone better can all affect how drawn to them you feel. Some people also care deeply for a partner without experiencing much physical attraction, and that can work if both people are happy with the relationship.
What matters is whether this feels okay to you and whether your expectations match. If attraction has faded, consider whether something in the relationship or your life has changed; if it was never there, you may want to ask whether companionship alone is enough for you. You don’t have to force desire, but a kind, honest conversation can help you both figure out what comes next.