Is it normal to not want people to hold your baby?
Yes. It’s normal to feel protective of your baby or simply not want other people holding them, and you don’t have to hand your baby over to be polite.
Absolutely. Some parents are comfortable passing the baby around; others would rather keep their little one close, especially when they’re tiny, you’re still recovering, or you’re tired of people reaching in without asking. Both reactions are normal.
You can set the boundary without a big explanation: “We’re keeping the baby with us today,” or “Please ask before picking them up.” People may feel a little disappointed, but that doesn’t mean you’re being unreasonable.
If the worry feels so intense that it’s making everyday life hard, it may help to talk it through with someone you trust or a healthcare professional. Otherwise, you’re allowed to say no.