Is it normal to regret having a baby?
It’s not unusual to regret becoming a parent, or to have moments when you wish things had turned out differently. Those feelings don’t automatically mean you don’t love your child or that you’re a bad parent.
Having a baby can change your sleep, freedom, relationships, finances, and sense of self all at once. When you’re exhausted or overwhelmed, regret can show up—even for parents who also feel love and joy. Some people feel it briefly; others feel it more persistently, and both can be hard to admit out loud.
You don’t have to pretend you’re grateful every minute. Talking honestly with someone you trust, or a counselor or healthcare professional, can help you sort through what you’re feeling without judging you. If the regret feels constant or overwhelming, or comes with ongoing sadness, anxiety, or trouble functioning, reach out to a healthcare professional—support is available.