Is it normal to resent your mother?
Mostly.Normal for most people
Yes, it can be normal to resent your mother, especially if you feel hurt, controlled, or let down by her. Those feelings don’t make you a bad child, and they can exist alongside love or affection.
Resentment often grows when old hurts or unmet needs keep piling up, or when you feel your mother doesn’t respect your boundaries. Lots of people have complicated feelings about a parent; you don’t have to pretend everything is fine just because she’s your mother.
It may help to get specific about what you resent and what you want now—more distance, a boundary, an apology, or simply a chance to be heard. You’re allowed to choose what kind of relationship feels workable for you, even if your feelings are mixed.