Is it normal to struggle with monogamy?
Yes, it’s normal to find monogamy challenging; people differ in what kind of relationship works for them. What matters is being honest with your partner and respecting the agreements you’ve made.
Some people naturally feel comfortable with exclusivity, while others find it restrictive, miss dating other people, or struggle with attraction outside the relationship. That doesn’t automatically mean you don’t love your partner or that anything is wrong with you.
The important distinction is between having those feelings and breaking an agreement. If monogamy isn’t working for you, talk about it honestly rather than making a change behind your partner’s back. You may find a way forward together—or discover that you want different kinds of relationships, and that’s useful to know.