Is it normal to want to know details of an affair?
Depends.It depends
Yes, it’s normal to want details about an affair, especially if it affected your relationship. But people differ on whether knowing more helps them feel settled or just gives them painful images to replay.
When trust has been broken, wanting the full story can feel like a way to make sense of what happened and decide what comes next. Some people want answers; others would rather know only what they need to make informed choices. Neither reaction is wrong.
It may help to sort out which details would actually answer your questions—such as how long it went on or whether there’s still contact—and which would only be painful to picture. You can ask for honesty while setting limits on graphic or unnecessary details.