Is it normal to fantasize about other people in a relationship?
Yes—fantasizing about other people while you’re in a relationship is common and doesn’t automatically mean you love your partner less or want to cheat. What matters is how you handle it and what agreements you and your partner have.
Being in a relationship doesn’t switch off your imagination or make you stop noticing other people. A fantasy can just be a passing thought, not a plan or a verdict on your relationship.
People differ on what feels okay: some couples see private fantasies as no big deal, while others feel uncomfortable discussing them or have specific boundaries around flirting and acting on attraction. You don’t have to confess every thought, but it’s worth talking with your partner if the fantasies are affecting your connection or pointing to something you want to address together.