Is it normal to fantasize about others in a relationship?
Yes, it’s normal to have fantasies about other people while you’re in a relationship. A fantasy by itself doesn’t mean you’re unhappy or want to act on it.
Being committed doesn’t switch off your imagination or make you stop noticing other people. Lots of people have private fantasies they never intend to act on, and they can coexist with loving and wanting your partner.
What matters more is how you handle it: fantasies are different from crossing agreements or boundaries. Couples vary on whether they want to hear about each other’s fantasies, so there isn’t one rule about sharing them. If the fantasies are bothering you or pointing to something you feel is missing, you can explore that without treating the thoughts as proof that your relationship is in trouble.