Is it normal to love your kids more than your spouse?
Yes, it’s normal for your love for your kids to feel stronger or more urgent than your love for your spouse. Those relationships are different, though, so they don’t have to compete on one scale.
A lot of parents feel a fierce, protective love for their kids that can seem bigger than anything else. Your relationship with a spouse is different: it includes partnership, romance, and shared responsibilities, and it may feel quieter or less all-consuming by comparison.
People vary, and feelings can shift with stress, a new baby, or the stage of your relationship. Loving your kids deeply doesn’t mean you don’t love your spouse, and it doesn’t mean you have to rank everyone. If the distance from your spouse is bothering you, it may help to make a little time to reconnect.