Is it normal to not understand yourself?
Mostly.Normal for most people
Yes, it’s normal to feel like you don’t fully understand yourself. People change, have conflicting feelings, and often figure themselves out gradually rather than all at once.
Absolutely. You can be unsure what you want, why something bothered you, or how you feel about a big part of your life—and sometimes your reactions surprise you. That doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; people aren’t always neat, consistent little instruction manuals.