Is it normal to resent your partner after having a baby?
Yes, resentment toward your partner after having a baby is common, especially when you’re exhausted or feel the work isn’t being shared fairly. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them, but it can be a sign that something needs to change.
A new baby can turn sleep, routines, and the balance of responsibility upside down. If you feel like you’re carrying more of the feeding, chores, planning, or emotional load, resentment can build fast. Some people feel it even when both partners are trying; being worn out and adjusting to a huge life change can make small frustrations feel enormous.
It may help to name the specific things that are bothering you and ask for concrete changes, rather than waiting for your partner to notice. You’re allowed to want rest and support, not just to be grateful for the baby.
If the resentment feels relentless or comes with deep hopelessness, panic, or feeling unable to cope, talk with a healthcare professional—you deserve support too.